The Greatest Decision Ever

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During a job interview I was taken aback with the question, what was my greatest and hardest decision I made in my life.

I look back and recall things I sacrifice in the span of years I live here on earth. The answer pop up so quick, I was surprise of how my decision made me of who I am today.

Back then, I chose my school life over my love life. I have few regrets. Things I didn’t say and do but I already accepted the fact that things happen as how it supposed to be.

I exchanged a temporary happiness to a lifetime of loneliness, that’s what I thought first. I was alone at the top. I can’t even smile fully with the gold hanging in my neck and a wooden frame in my hands. My smile did not match the dullness of my eyes.

I thought the person would stay, would understand, and would support me along the way. But I was so wrong.

Stressed and fatigued, the two who changed me. I was too focused of my goal, too focused of looking forward I wasn’t able to see that I was leaving you behind. My pace didn’t match yours so we have a problem with too much insecurities.

All I think about in those stressful days is how I dread it to be finished. That there will be no after class meetings that will gonna hinder us on the way home.

No department competition to lead, for the sake of the name of our course to be recognize.

That there will be no sleepless nights that I study too much for a test I wanted to ace tomorrow.

I wanted to graduate soon and say the words and be able to feel freely the butterfly in my stomach. No more grades to mind, no more teachers to please, and no more classmate to lead; just you and me.

But you drifted away because I pushed you away. I pushed you because I was too afraid of saying the words that you wanted to hear. I pushed you away because I consider other people’s feelings more than I do with you. I pushed you away because you were the last person in my list of priorities.

As I was moving forward towards the castle in the sand we built together was blown and destroyed by the waves and the wind of our obstacles. And you were just standing there, swallowed by your own insecurities, influenced by your ego, brainwashed by your jealousy.

I really believe that what you felt for me before was love, but you were just longing for an affection I can never give to you. I am sorry if I love my life more than you. Because I thought that there are a lot of years ahead of us and I wanted to achieve all this things so that I could focused all my attention to you in the later years. I thought we are in the same wavelength.

But thanks to you. You made me realize that pursuing that temporary happiness could make my parents really proud of me. And I realized, it is not my life who I cherished after all. It is the people who willingly stayed for those times I was too busy looking forward and moving to the top. They waited patiently for me and support me in everything until I finally reached my end of the path I was creating for them to walked smoothly. So that I could get them and lead them to where I am now.

I am sorry you did not understand that I worked so hard for myself so that you will be also proud of me.

We are not meant to happen. We don’t have a happy ending. You were just a sad and painful chapter in my life. You serve as a lesson. That people who loves me deeply will stay no matter how hard it is to be with me and people who don’t will eventually get tired and leave.

I know my life is not as happy as I wanted to be without you but I made the right decision, you will never be a part of what I am going to be. The updated version of me.

** Credits to the rightful owner of the picture

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Excellent at School, Failure at Work

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“Your intelligence is not measured by those numbers…”

My friend told me these words and realization comes in. I know that most people who do well at school, even the one who top in class, after graduation and got a job and don’t perform well, would relate to this article and would know my frustration.

Well, I am not bragging anything here. I just wanted to let you know that I have this realization when I took my on the job training. I am one of the students in class, who excel in academics and a responsible student president. I thought there is only one thing I am not good at, Sports.

But I was wrong. As I started my OJT at first, our training was not hard. It is like studying at school. Listening to the lecture and prepare for a quiz tomorrow. After that training, I got confident that I will do well on the actual work because I performed well and did my best. Actual work comes in, insecurities came. Our company is grading us based on our performance. And do you know what grade I got? In the edge of failing.

I was so devastated and think how stupid I am. My co-workers are performing well than me. I don’t really mind how well they are doing. It is just that I am not used to failing and performing badly. I just wanted to excel in every work that will be placed on me.

As this on the job training went on, I become aware that true intelligence is measured, how well you do with certain things outside school. It is how you managed to get out or solve a situation you have on your plate right now. So for me, I am still struggling to cope that realization and doing the best that I could surpass this frustration. Good thing there are friends that support me and encourage me not to look down to myself.

And also, I have God that is always there to remind me that He placed me here for a reason and I’ll just have to wait for the answer to my question… “Why here?”. I remember that if we have God, hope will never abandon our hearts.